Sexual activity that you did not consent to is sexual assault.

Consent: Consent is voluntary, sober, enthusiastic, wanted, informed, mutual, and honest agreement to engage in sexual activity. Consent can be given verbally or by conduct. Consent must be an active agreement. Real consent is not coerced. Consent may be withdrawn at any time without regard to any sexual activity that happened before. Consent may not be inferred from silence or passivity alone. The absence of a “no” does not mean “yes.” Consent should be asked for every step of the way; if you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, just ask. If your partner does not consent, then STOP. Consent cannot be assumed, even in the context of a relationship. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you have permission to have sex with your partner. A person who is too drunk to be aware of what is happening, or who is too young, or who is mentally incapacitated in some way, cannot legally give consent. Everyone involved should be involved in the decision to have sex. Consent may be defined differently by federal, state, or local laws, or your school. Check with your Title IX coordinator to find out if your campus has a specific definition it uses.

If you are unsure about what happened to you, you can speak to someone who can keep your experience confidential and talk you through your experience. Examples of people you could talk to include school or private counselors, or a sexual assault survivor advocate, the National Sexual Assault Hotline, which offers a 24/7 phone and chat hotline. If you want to know the legal definitions of rape and sexual assault in your state, you can access that information at the RAINN State Law Database